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3 Common Misunderstandings
about Creating
by Carly Anderson, MCC
Have you ever wanted something
so badly, yet with your very best efforts it never happened?
Or maybe you can relate to this scenario. Something
you didn't even know you wanted just shows up in your
life, and it seemed to come effortlessly. You are exasperated!
How come you've easily found a great paying job, and
yet you've put so much effort into losing weight and
can't keep it off, no matter what you try?
Unfortunately
we've never been taught the basic principles of creating,
so we don't know how to consistently create what we
want. We remain in the stop and start cycle, moving
a few steps forward then falling more steps back. We
may become determined to beat the cycle, as we desperately
want to be successful in business, or lose weight, find
the perfect partner, or get that promotion. After another
round of not succeeding, we feel drained, stressed and
disillusioned. You may ask yourself the question, Why
can't I have what I want? What's wrong with me? And
the stop/start cycle continues.
You're not alone.
Over the years, I've discovered
and used more of the secrets to consistently creating
success, and how to work the process of change. Here
are three common misunderstandings about creating anything
you want in life;
Misunderstanding
#1 - You have to change your beliefs to get what you
want
Not true! From the day you are born to the day you die,
every experience is recorded on the audiovisual tape
of your mind. Even if you've purged past traumatic events
through therapy and other personal growth modalities,
at some time in the future I guarantee you a belief
from your past will come back and stare you in the face,
and shake your world. First hand experience has been
a great teacher of this principle!
Whenever we directly contradict
a current belief, our subconscious checks it out by
comparing the amount of energy and attachment we have
on the current belief, versus the new/opposite belief.
Our subconscious says YES to whatever has the most forceful
gravity field or pull.
For example, you may have a goal
to lose a certain amount of weight, and a hidden belief
that you can never be your ideal weight, not without
going on a starvation diet. Then you remember the last
time you went on a diet and how that didn't work. Let's
say you're determined to lose weight this time, and
begin affirming "I am now my ideal weight."
So your subconscious checks out the pull of the gravity
field surrounding that affirmation, and what it finds
is you're lying - of course you're not your ideal weight!
So your subconscious reinforces the truth, which is
you're not your ideal weight.
Can you relate to this vicious
cycle? The same principle applies to finding your ideal
job, growing a business, finding clients, having a great
relationship, and so on. Rather than attempt to change
beliefs, we need to get smarter about working WITH our
subconscious. It's easier to change our RELATIONSHIP
with a belief than to change the belief itself. More
on this in the next section.
Misunderstanding
#2 - Affirmations are an effective way to change beliefs
I can hear some of you say that affirmations work really
well for you. Yet if I were to ask you to describe the
process of what you're doing, you'll most likely describe
something different. Using affirmations involves saying
something is so, when it isn't, and usually begin with
the words, I am.
In the past, I've used affirmations
as a technique for attempting to change my beliefs,
yet what I mostly ended up with was the opposite of
what I wanted. And if I perservered, there was a lot
of struggle involved and I'd become disheartened and
tell myself it really wasn't that important anyway.
After a few bad experiences, we
begin to lower the goal so it's more achievable. We
become good at convincing ourselves this is okay, yet
we know we're not telling ourselves the truth. When
we continuously lessen what we want, we send ourselves
a message that we aren't able to create what we want.
There is a simple technique we
use in Intentional Sucess™ to instantly shift our
relationship to a given belief. Rather than contradicting
a current belief, we open a doorway for a new relationship
with that belief. Rather than stating "I am now
my ideal weight," we replace "I am" with
"What If", so the statement becomes "What
If I was my ideal weight….?" There is no contradiction
in using What If, so our subconscious gives it consideration.
When used from a place of curiosity, my clients and
I have had profound changes occur in very short periods
of time, without all the stress and strain of the past.
Rather than attempt to change
a belief, it's easier to change our relationship with
that belief, and very soon a different belief is in
the driver's seat. By using a 'curious' What If on a
daily basis, we allow our subconscious to go to work,
and the pull of gravity is in a forward direction.
Misunderstanding
#3 - You must set goals and put a deadline on reaching
them to be successful
Not entirely true! How many times have you set a goal
and not achieved it? Goalsetting works on the premise
that you must know exactly what you want, and have a
clear picture of what your goal looks like when it's
completed. There are some goals that have a finite deadline,
like making a decision to attend a conference. What
I'm referring to is all those things you yearn to have
in your life, that have no impending deadline.
Goalsetting uses the logical mind
to decide what you want, and yet again, doesn't tap
into our amazing, expansive subconscious, which is just
waiting to be invited to help us. We've never been given
the combination to the lock on the safe, so we don't
know how to tap into this god-given creating tool. The
principles of Intentional Success give us two missing
steps before the level known as goalsetting, and there's
no force or second guessing involved.
First you set a direction, then
you decide on the category of what you want to create,
and focus your attention at that level. Very soon the
actual goal becomes obvious, and THEN you know exactly
what action to take. For example, if you want more clients
or a better paying job, you'd start at a macro level
by setting a direction, such as being free and being
prosperous, and being the predominant creative force
in your life. At the next level, you'd choose the category
of "Creating a business or job that is perfect
for me." By putting your attention on these two
levels of creating, the 'goal' or action plan becomes
obvious, including a timeline to completion.
From personal experience, all
sorts of magical doors begin to open, and new possibilities
arise that I couldn't possibly have thought of by using
my logical mind alone. The fact that I'm writing an
article on this subject is testament. Not that many
years ago, I had no idea I'd be putting together the
Intentional Success Program, or writing this article
about some of the common misunderstandings to creating
anything you want!
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